You’re getting married. Congratulations! If you are a woman in an opposite-sex relationship, and if it hasn’t happened already, one or more individuals will ask, “Are you planning to change your name?”
When Roger and I were planning our wedding – 11 years ago – I recall being asked this question. I didn’t have a professional identity tied to my maiden name nor was I particularly attached to it, so I took Roger’s name. However, I must admit that while I was somewhat aware of the history of this custom, I gave little consideration to the patriarchal traditions associated with it.